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#LoveWins, Not Obama

When I am not on a full time schedule with work or school, I tend to become a big kid. I’ve been catching up on the hours of gaming I do not allow myself to indulge during the Fall or Spring semesters. My son Logan and I decided to attempt to get through the Mass Effect Trilogy this summer. We’ve talked about trying this series of games before but always found something else that was a higher priority.


Thursday night since our youngest daughter was on an adventure with her BFF, and our youngest wore himself out early, I decided to veg out in the living room playing Mass Effect. I began playing and got through one mission, then another, and next thing I know it is 7 am Friday morning.

In an attempt to not disturb my wife, I decided to lay down on the couch, and put the TV on the local morning news. I barely watch TV anymore so I get a bad case of “A D Oh Shiny” when I do actually sit there trying to kill time. I started flipping channels and ended up on CNN (an old radio habit).

As I tried to doze off, I heard them make the announcement that the Supreme Court had ruled to legalize Gay Marriage across the country. The news is not a shock to me. As I have stated, both in writing and on air, I think that people should be able to share their lives with the person they want. As long as the love is there, it should not matter if they are gay or straight.



I was happy to see that the Supreme Court did not side step the issue. They did something that is a broad stroke to make it legal everywhere, instead of having to hear a case from each of the 14 states that had some form of “defense of traditional marriage” law or constitutional amendment to their state constitution (like was done here in Louisiana). I was happy.

My wife actually texted a gay friend of ours that was planning an out of state wedding for him and his partner of many years later this year. It will now be in their home state. While it may “not have anything to do with the constitution” as Chief Justice Roberts wrote in his minority decision, it was the right thing to do so we can move forward as a country.

The ruling was a victory for millions of gay couples that have fought for years to be treated as any other married couple. This has never been about getting the same benefits as married couples, or the same rights. It has always been about being treated as an equal.


My anger began to build when not sixty seconds after the ruling was announced, the CNN team began to pontificate about how this will hurt republican presidential candidates because this issue help draw voters to the polls in 2004. Not five minutes into the coverage Wolf Blitzer said for the first time (he said it at least 10) that this was “A HUGE victory for PRESIDENT OBAMA” which struck me as weird. Did Obama come out of the closet? Is Michelle really a man? How does this ruling that finally gives gay couples the legal right to get married in the United States a “victory” for Obama?


Before you try to defend this, remember Obama was against gay marriage before he was for it. He became for it because polling showed his political machine that the core voters that got him elected was on the other side of the issue than he was. He changed his mind to get more votes.

The real winners here are the couples that have had to resort to getting married somewhere that allowed gay marriage, and then came back home to live in a place where their marriage was not technically legal. The victory is in the fact that the Supreme Court looked past all the politics, and focused on the fact that allowing marriage equality was the American thing to do.


The only thing that Obama could be credited with is nominating 2 of the 5 justices that voted for this to become the new law of the land. He did not put this case before the supreme court. He did not lobby for this decision. So how is this his victory? Obama tweeted his pleasure in the SCOTUS ruling moments after the announcement using the hash tag #LoveWins which went viral. He later made a statement in the rose garden stating the this was a “Victory for America” which is actually true (having to say something factual must have been hard).

I also got upset when all of a sudden dozens of national companies changed the logos on their social platforms to something with a rainbow on it. I am glad they are supportive now, but to me it is very disingenuous to try to gain some type of foothold by showing support now that all the hard work has been done. It is hollow and is not something that should be endorsed or condoned. If they wanted to support marriage equality, the help was needed long before flipping into a rainbow logo today after the fight was won. Maybe I am just too cynical.